Vision or Hearing – Which is More Important?

Veteran Colonel Jose Vallikappan of 18 Cavalry Regiment of the Indian Army magnanimously sent me a copy of his book Nonsense File by the Colonel through his nephew who lives in Canada.  I immediately sat down to read it.  I was familiar with Colonel Jose’s writing as he has been a columnist of note in The Week for a very long time.  It was lighthearted, humour-based reminiscences of his experience in the Indian Army.  He ran the column for 15 years.

In the book, Colonel Jose writes, “I had always thought that eyes are more important than ears and that seeing is more critical than hearingIt was from the kind and angelic Sister Resella of Karuna Speech and Hearing School at Kozhikode that I learned that hearing is indeed more critical than seeing.  Without hearing you cannot speak, without speech there is no language and without language there is no concept of ideas and what is life without ideas?”

On reading this, I paused and analysed the paragraph.  I too, until reading this line, thought that seeing is more critical than hearing. It is quite natural to think that with critical loss of vision, one is perpetually in a traumatic dark world. But surprisingly, many people with vision loss are able to lead successful lives as compared to those with hearing loss, congenital or otherwise. There are many visually impaired PhDs, professors, doctors, musicians and so on. Hearing loss is a global disability of gigantic proportions. According to a UN report, a quarter of all people in their sixties, half of those in their seventies and eighty percent of those in their eighties suffer from serious hearing loss. Age related hearing loss (Presbycusis) is indeed a serious widespread problem. In addition to being deprived of the world of ideas as pointed out by Sister Rosella, loss in ability to communicate often leads to social distancing, loneliness, depression and other mental health issues.

For far too long hearing loss has been relegated to the sidelines of health care. It is unimaginable to think that in a country like the US, legislation was required to make available over- the -counter hearing aids. This came about only as late as October 2022.  

A few weeks back, I rented a chainsaw from the store to cut a tree. Along with the chainsaw came the ear protection mufflers. On inquiry the store man said, “it is mandatory that the ear mufflers be issued with the equipment whose noise levels are higher than the prescribed limit, but it is up to you to use it or not.”

My mind raced back to my young officer days in the Indian Army. It was considered not manly enough to wear the ear plugs while firing the heavy caliber guns. After every firing practice, we heard a thousand bees buzzing in our ears for the next few days. We all got used to this sound as we got used to the firing, without realising that we were getting into a world of Noise Induced Hearing Loss. The effects of it continue and I have a hard time listening to whispers or soft noises.

The store man gave me protective goggles too – to protect my eyes from the flying debris while operating the chainsaw.  I reminisced about our workshop lessons at the National Defence Academy. Other than wearing the thick military dungaree, we had no protection for our faces while operating the lathe, milling and cutting machines.  Luckily during our time at the Academy, no Cadet suffered any injuries while operating these machines.  By Western standards, it may be criminal negligence!!!

Of the five human senses, sight, smell, hearing, taste, and touch, if you had to go without one of your senses, which would it be? Aristotle proposed a hierarchy of senses in the fourth century BC. He ranked sight first, followed by hearing, smell, taste and then touch.

Research has shown that people rate sight loss as a greater concern than loss of memory, loss of speech/hearing. A clinical study with patients experiencing sensory loss has shown that loss of sight and touch cause the greatest decreases in quality of life before loss of hearing, taste, and smell.

People with hearing loss can often hear what other people are talking but cannot make out what they are saying. They can hear, but their ability to listen and communicate with other people is curtailed. When our sense of hearing is impaired, misunderstandings emerge. The frustration experienced by the speaker and the listener can lead to both parties avoiding social interactions and exchanges.

It is akin to travelling to a foreign country where nobody speaks or even understands your native language. You are frustrated when people do not respond to you asking for directions or trying to order from a local menu.

While in a dense forest on a dark night, all you can see are trees and shadows.  Nature’s sounds tell you what is happening around you. Here our brain meshes with our vision and hearing to create an image of what is happening around us. What you see can influence what you hear, and likewise hearing can affect vision.

Adequate vision and hearing are paramount to educational performance.  Impaired vision and/or hearing in children can seriously impede learning and result in development of educational, emotional and behavioral problems.  Early discovery and treatment can prevent or at least alleviate many of these problems.

Children with hearing or vision loss often are not aware they do not hear or see as they should.  For this reason, it is up to the parents to identify if their children have hearing or vision problems. Hearing and vision screening must be provided annually to children from the age of three years up to third grade. Equally important is age related hearing /vision loss which we need to address as individuals. Loved ones play an equally important role in this aspect as often the affected older adult is unaware of the problem or reticent to address it

An interesting aside on the power of hearing. On September 8, 1941, the German Army laid siege to Leningrad and the Luftwaffe subjected Leningrad to massive bombing.  Special non-sighted soldiers – Eavesdroppers – were recruited into the Russian Army.  They picked out the noise of the approaching enemy aircraft and warned their comrades. Their device consisted of a system of tubes of various sizes that made it possible to hear the hum of approaching enemy aircraft at a great distance. These eavesdroppers could detect enemy aircrafts long before they came close to the front line. They could identify the type and model of approaching German aircraft and, sometimes, the approximate number of planes in a group.

It is heartening to note that the world’s biggest cricket event, the Indian Premier League (IPL,) have joined hands with the India Signing Hands (ISH) News to curate and create a commentary feed for the hearing impaired and the visually impaired. It provides ball-by-ball updates using the Indian sign language, and the regular verbal score updates. There is no denying that the unique thrill of a live game is a mix of visual drama and sound dynamics. For those with vision or hearing loss, the experience might become a bit challenging, but that doesn’t mean they can’t soak in the energy and excitement of the game.

Can you decide whether Vision or Hearing – which is more important?

Tulips 2024

April rains bring in May flowers is a famous Canadian saying. In May, Tulips announce the arrival of Spring at our garden.

Tulips are wildflowers native to central Asia in the Tien Shan Mountains near the Russian-Chinese border but didn’t really become popular until reaching the Netherlands.

They spread west and were cultivated in the Ottoman Empire (modern-day Turkey) by 1000 AD, when the sultans introduced huge beds of tulips to parks and palace gardens.

Tulips are known for their bold colors and beautiful shape, and most varieties are indeed almost perfectly symmetrical.

The word ‘tulip’ comes from ‘tülbend,’ a Turkish pronunciation of the Persian word ‘dulband,’ which means turban.

Tulips are known for their bold colors and beautiful shape, and most varieties are indeed almost perfectly symmetrical.

The blooms have three petals and three sepals, but since the sepals are almost the same size and shape as the petals, tulips appear to have six petals to a bulb.

Striped tulips were originally created from a virus. In 1931, scientists discovered that the coloring was caused by a virus spread by aphids (sap-sucking insects). The virus is still used to alter the DNA, but it’s done without aphids.

Tulips symbolise love but there is a different meaning based on the color tulip. For love and romance, red tulips are the way to go.

If you want to convey an apology, white tulips are the flowers that you seek.

Orange Tulips represent sense of compassion, understanding, and sympathy.

Pink tulips symbolise happiness and confidence.

Purple tulips are associated with royalty.

Yellow tulips are great for cheer and happiness.

Although there are no true black flowers that occur in nature, because of their deep purple petals that almost look black. ‘Queen of the Night’ tulips are one of the most popular varieties because of their deep purple petals that almost look black.

True Blue is one of the few colours with Black that has remained absent from tulip’s impressive colour palette.

The flower is the symbol of the Parkinson’s Disease Foundation. A variety of tulip was named after Dr James Parkinson, the doctor for which the degenerative disease is named.

Currently tulips are the third most popular flower in the world, with roses coming in first and chrysanthemums coming in second.

On Valentine’s Day the tulip is the second most gifted flower (after the rose) – obviously only Red.

Tulip blooms only last a week or two, and we await the tulips to bloom next year.

My Sweet Sugarcane Memories

Recently, on social media, there was an image of the calendar page of August 1947.  The Forwarder pointed out that 15 August 1947 was not printed as a holiday.  This of course was quite natural as the calendar was printed prior to the beginning of the year at which time nothing was known about the epoch-making events which were to follow during the year. What struck me however was that the calendar was of Mr PC Mathew of Ettumannoor, Kottayam and that he was a Jaggery Merchant.   In those days besides the Malayala Manorama newspaper only a few rich businessmen printed calendars.  So one can surmise that Mr. Mathew had a flourishing Jaggery business in Kottayam.

The Central Travencore area prior to independence had extensive sugarcane cultivation, in the areas watered by Pampa, Manimala, Achenkovil and Meenachil rivers.  The area mainly comprising present day Kottayam and Patthanamthitta districts, was ideally suited for Sugarcane cultivation as the climate and soil conditions of the area is suitable for the crop.  Areas like riverbanks, waste lands etc. where other crops could not be cultivated were profitably utilised through sugarcane cultivation. Moreover, sugarcane could tolerate heavy rainfall and short duration water-logging. The golden brown, sweet Central Travencore Jaggery was famous all over India. This is history and the area has very little sugar cultivation now. Recently there have been some reports of individual attempts to revive sugarcane cultivation in the area but largely to no avail.

Up to late 1960’s areas around Kottayam cultivated sugarcane, more than rice and tapioca.  In our young days, children often sneaked into the sugarcane fields to enjoy the ripening cane.  The landowners or their sentries shooed us away, but we were quite successful more often than not.  During our National Defence Academy (NDA) days, the fields around NDA too had sugarcane.  Cadets did the famous गन्ना Ganna (sugarcane) Raids.  In 1996 when I visited the NDA, I found no sugarcane cultivation in the area.  It was sad to see a concrete jungle instead of the rolling sugarcane landscape.

By late 1960s, the sugarcane cultivation stopped in our area and entire Kottayam as there were some pests infesting on the crops and the canes turned red.  The pests sucked away all the juices and left the canes to wilt.  Advent of Rubber was also another reason which dealt a deathblow to sugarcane cultivation in the areas around of Kottayam.  Please click here to read about introduction of Rubber plantations in Kottayam.

Non-availability of sugarcane led to the closure of the sugar division of The Travancore Sugars & Chemicals Ltd. (TSCL) in 1998. The company was incorporated in 1937 with the factory at Thiruvalla in Pathanamthitta District, Kerala, which commenced commercial sugar production on November 1948. The Company was originally owned by M/s Parry & Co. Government of Kerala took over the company in 1974. Now its distillery division produces Jawan brand Rum. Thiruvalla is also home to the Sugarcane Research and Development Centre. Like many research centres in the country, it is a white elephant milked by its employees. Their website shows no research paper ever published and has hardly contributed to the reintroduction of sugarcane in the region.

The sugarcane farmers crushed the sugarcane on a ചക്ക് Chakku.  The Chakku had two vertical metallic cylinders rotated by a bull going around.  The sugarcane was passed between the two metallic cylinders and the juice collected at the bottom.

The metallurgy of the cylinders was not that well developed, and they got worn out over prolonged use, especially in the middle, due to the extensive pressure the passing sugarcane exerted.  As the rollers lost their cylindrical shape, their effectiveness reduced drastically and had to be turned on the lathe, especially at the two ends to make them cylindrical.

The sugarcane juice was boiled in a huge വാർപ്പ് (Vaarppu,) a flat iron boiling pan of about three-meter diameter.   During boiling, chemical bleaching agents or vegetables were added to clean the juice and the extraneous matter was constantly removed to give a bright golden colour. The boiled juice was then left to cool in pots to form the jaggery blocks.

Our village blacksmith, Shankara Panickan lived across the street. He manufactured and sharpened farm implements and knives. The main source of income for Panickan was not from sharpening tools, but from his lathe, housed in a shed between his house and the foundry.  To turn the lathe there was a wheel of a bullock cart attached at one end, which had to be rotated manually at a particular speed.  Panicking’s elder son Thankan, was an expert at the task.

The customers at the lathe were mainly the sugarcane crusher owners.  They had to turn their worn out vertical metallic cylinders on a lathe.  Panickan charged 20 rupees per roller he turned on his lathe, but this bonanza came to Panickan only on a few days, limited to the crushing season.

The day Panickan got his bonanza, the evenings were more entertaining, especially for the neighbourhood (no one had a radio then.)  Panickan that evening visited the കള്ളു ഷാപ്പ് Kallu Shappu (Toddy Bar).  (Toddy is an alcoholic beverage made from the sap of palm trees by fermentation).  He returned home drunk by nightfall and sang folk and devotional songs with such endearing passion that I can still feel the melody wafting through the still air.  The way he used to sing will put some of today’s professional singers to shame.  His favourite songs were the one he sang in praise of Lord Aiyyappa of Sabarimala. 

For the current generation, sugarcane cultivation in Kottayam is history.

Daffodils and Hyacinths : 2024

Daffodils, also known by their botanical name Narcissus, are the first flowers to bloom in our garden. The name originates from the Latin word affodill which comes from the Greek word asphodelus, which refers to a genus of flowers that emerge from fleshy rhizomes. It is believed that the Dutch put de, meaning the, in front of the word affodill, which eventually led to the name Daffodil.

Daffodils symbolise rebirth, new beginnings, hope, joy, and good luck. This symbolism could be because daffodils emerge first every spring to light up barren landscapes with their cheerful yellow, orange, and white flowers.

The centre of a Daffodil is a crown-like structure called a trumpet and is also known a Corona! 

Daffodils are the official tenth wedding anniversary flower. Chinese believe that if the Daffodils bloom for the Chinese New Year, it will bring luck to the whole household.

The Hyacinth bloom early spring accompanying the Daffodils and is a member of the asparagus family.

According Greek mythology legend, a young Hyacinth was killed when Apollo and Zephyrus were fighting over his affections. It is said hyacinths sprung up from his spilled blood.

The Hyacinth flower symbolises sport or play. Different coloured hyacinths carry different meanings. The blue Hyacinth signifies sincerity.

Pink hyacinths mean ‘playful joy’ while the purple flowers symbolise deep regret and white represents love and prayer.

Welcome Spring 2024

When proud-pied April, dressed in all his trim, April hath put a spirit of youth in everything, – Sonnet 98: From you have I been absent in the spring by William Shakespeare.

That is what the spirit of spring brings to each one of us. In Spring, the earth laughs in flowers.  It brings in cheer and happiness.  It is a reminder to us about the warmer days ahead.  If we did not have the freezing winter, the spring will never be so pleasant. 

We enjoy everyday of Spring more because it is the weather of birds chirping; bees flying from flower to flower collecting nectar; butterflies fluttering showing off their colourful wings.

The first blooms of spring always make my heart sing as the flowers never worry about how they are going to bloom. They bloom and turn toward the light and that makes them beautiful.

To plant a garden is to believe in tomorrow and at the end of the day in the Spring, I smell like dirt. The very first flowers that appear in our garden at the onset of Spring are on the Weeping Pussy Willow. The Salix Caprea ‘Pendula’ is commonly known as the Goat Willow or Weeping Pussy Willow, which belongs to the Caprea genus of flowering trees.

The soft coating of hairs acts as insulation to protect these early bloomers from cold temperatures. Most other willows make similar flowers, and since they’re among the very first to bloom, they’re especially delightful—they signal the onset of spring. The tree derives its name from these soft silver tufts that resemble tiny cats’ paws, feeling so much like fur.

Among the fruit trees in our garden, the first to bloom are the apricots.

The pale pink and fragrant flowers are 5-petaled and appear singularly or in pairs.  Cultivation of apricot trees in China dates back 3000 years. From there apricot trees spread west throughout central Asia into Armenia. The Romans introduced apricots to Europe in 70-60 BC through Greece and Italy. Apricot trees probably moved to the US through English settlers on the East Coast,

Solar Eclipse: 08 Apr 2024

Eclipses and transits are astronomical events where a celestial body partially or totally covers another celestial object.  The term eclipse also finds its roots in ancient Greek—it comes from the word ékleipsis, meaning to fail or to abandon.

Eclipses, solar and lunar, have fascinated scientists and laypeople for centuries. In ancient times, eclipses were seen as phenomena to be feared – many cultures came up with stories and myths to explain the temporary darkening of the Sun or the Moon.

The story of eclipses in Hindu mythology dates to the Samudra Manthan (churning pf the ocean,) as described in both Bhagawat and Vishnu Puranas. After the Amrit or elixir of immortality was churned out of the ocean, the Devas (Gods) used the Apsara Mohini to trick the Asuras (Demons) out of its share. One of the Asuras, Svarbhanu, disguised himself as a Deva, and sat between the Sun and the Moon for a drink of the elixir.

When Vishnu came closer, the Sun and the Moon revealed that Svarbhanu was a demon. By this time Svarbhanu had already sipped on the drink. Vishnu immediately cut off his head. Since the demon had already swallowed a bit of the nectar, his head became immortal. The head became Rahu and the body became Ketu. It is believed that from time to time, Rahu catches up with the Sun and the Moon, and swallows them. The incident doesn’t last long because Rahu has no hands to grab onto these two celestial Gods.

Rahu and Ketu denote the points of intersection of the paths of the Sun and the Moon as they move on the imaginary celestial sphere with the earth at the centre and are respectively called the North and the South lunar nodes. Eclipses occur when the Sun and the Moon are at one of these points, giving rise to the understanding of swallowing of the Sun and the Moon by Rahu and Ketu.

The Gospel of Luke 23:45 for the sun stopped shining and the curtain of the temple was torn in two. Mark 15:32 Let this Messiah, this king of Israel, come down now from the cross, that we may see and believe. Those crucified with him also heaped insults on him.  33 At noon, darkness came over the whole land until three in the afternoon.

However, the biblical details do not accord with an eclipse: a solar eclipse could not have occurred on or near the Passover, when Jesus was crucified.  A solar Eclipse lasts for around seven minutes and is too brief to account for three hours of darkness.

A solar eclipse can only happen during the New Moon when the Moon passes between the Sun and Earth. Similarly, a Lunar Eclipse during the Full Moon. Although there is a New Moon every 29 ½ days, there are usually only two or three solar eclipses each year. That’s because the Moon’s orbit is tipped 5 degrees to Earth’s, so the Moon’s shadow misses Earth during most New Moons. Though the diameter of the Sun is 400 times that of the Moon, but it is also 400 times further away, which results in the Path of Totality. This path is typically 16,000 kilometers long but only 160 kilometers wide. To witness the Sun totally eclipsed by the Moon you must be in the path of totality.

The total solar eclipse in Niagara Falls, was ranked #11 on National Geographic’s Best of the World list for travel adventures.   The mayor of Niagara Falls declared a state of emergency in the region as a precautionary measure ahead of an expected large influx of people who came to observe the total solar eclipse. Officials were concerned that the large congregation could overwhelm traffic, emergency services and cellphone networks. More than half a million people flocked to the border city, home to the iconic waterfall, to witness the wonder.

Mississauga and the Greater Toronto Area, we are a few kilometres outside the Path of Totality, where the eclipse was about 99.86%.  It was a cloudy day; hence we could not observe the eclipse in full. The eclipse began around 2:00 PM, with totality at 3:18 PM and lasted around three minutes. 

At 2:00 PM, slowly and laboriously, the moon’s shadow ate into the sun during the next hour.  It was a gradual darkening of the sky as a second sunset began around 3:15 PM. At 3:18PM, nearing totality, the diamond ring effect was seen, when all but a tiny glaring dot of sunlight was visible, accompanied by a ring of light around the moon’s darkened face. After three minutes, the moon’s shadow slowly receded and the sun slowly began to reappear. After another hour, the sky had brightened again,

Reminising about the Total Solar Eclipse of16 February 1980, during our Third Semester at the national Defence Academy (NDA,) where many Cadets and Officers took it as an unwelcome and evil event which they presumed affected their lives negatively and they had to be protected from its evil effects.  It was a Saturday but was declared a national holiday as many feared that even the residual light entering the rooms may have adverse effects on the human body, especially the eyes.

To ensure people remained indoors, Doordarshan -the only TV channel then – screened the popular Hindi movie Chupke Chupke.  The England Cricket Team was playing the Bombay Test and due to the Solar Eclipse, both cricket boards decided the Second Day as the Rest Day.

We were all ordered to make our cabins into total blackout by placing our blankets on the windows. We were ordered to lock ourselves in the room until the evil receded. Special Duty Officers were posted in the Squadrons to ensure that the orders were strictly adhered to. The Academy for the first time in its history came to a near standstill.  All roads were deserted; Gole market closed; there were no humans sighted anywhere. 

Only a few diehard Cadets, immune to superstitions and blind beliefs, ventured to sneak a view of the eclipsed Sun through the side of their cabin windows.  I managed two sheets of blank X-Ray sheets from the Mallu X-Ray Technician at the Military Hospital, folded it as my suns-hield to view the eclipse.  Our classmate Late Commander VS Ranganathan and our senior Commander Rangarajan from Sainik School Amaravathi Nagar (TN) were members of the Astronomy Club.  They were lucky to view the eclipse through the telescope atop the Science Block and photograph the event.

Home – The Cradle of Leadership

When our son Nikhil was commissioned to the Canadian Army, I asked him, “What is the contribution of the Canadian Education system in turning you into a leader?”

Nikhil answered, “It all begins at home and is nurtured at home.  We go to school to gain knowledge, fight, resolve issues, refine our social and communication skills etc.  Ultimately it is the family that defines what a person is.

The ideas suggested below have worked with our family, earlier in the Indian Army environment and now in the Canadian environment. It is neither a remedy nor pill for success nor Dummies for Good Parenting. You may accept some, modify some and reject some based on your judgment.

Parenting.   We all want to raise children who will be able to raise even better children than we were able to. This incremental improvement in parenting will lead to better societies, to more progress and better understanding between the people.

Parent Child Communication.  Good communication is the bedrock of a strong family.  Please click to read Importance of Parent-Child Communication.

Decision Making.   Children must be allowed to make decisions at a young age.  It could be the colour pattern of the home, plants for the home garden, selection of a restaurant for the family outing, movie to be watched, etc.

Adventure Activities.   Parents must take children for as many adventure activities as possible.  We participated in Marathons and climbed CN Tower as a family.  Please click to read Climbing the CN Tower.

We went on camping trips to the wilderness of Ontario. Some of the lessons we learnt during our camping activities are: –

  • Be prepared to cope with inconvenience, especially washrooms. The parents must lead by example with a positive can-do attitude.
  • Ensure that all children are involved in meaningful camp chores like gathering firewood, collecting water from the tap, etc.
  • Teach the campers about the knots, hitches, and lashings as it will save a lot of time in tent pitching.
  • Pitch the tent in your backyard the previous weekend. This will teach the campers about tent pitching, managing space inside the tent, entry and exit without letting insects in.
  • Basic survival skills—such as building a simple shelter, making a fire, tying a knot, fishing, and berry picking—are all useful skills that may come in handy one day. Such activities are great for teaching cooperation, empowerment, and leadership.

Encourage Risky Play.  Children must be encouraged to take risks.  Not taking any risks is today’s risk. Please read Risky Play.

Play Chess with the Children.  It teaches children the art of planning and forethought.  Fit for all ages. Please click here to read.

Personal Finance.  Include children while planning family finances.  They must be aware of how much the parents earn and how that money is spent.  How to make and stick to a budget, how to save, how to invest, how to establish credit, how to manage bill payments, how to fill a tax return – these essential skills children will only learn if they participate in the family financial planning. When our children began to work from high-school days, every hard-earned penny was important to them, and they had to file their tax returns.

Employment and Networking.   Teach the children how to write a resume and cover letter. Teach them the importance of social and professional networking and give them the tools to make those connections. Remind them that their social media posts will probably be seen by the hiring manager googling your name.

Using Appropriate Terms to Describe Body Parts.   Many children and even adults are embarrassed to use the correct names, especially for sexual organs. Please read It’s Natural, Biological and Not the Stork.

Sex Education.   The most difficult subject for many parents to broach with their teenage children, but once you take the first bold step towards it, it becomes easier and will be a rewarding experience. Studies indicate that adolescents whose parents talk to them about sex tend to be less sexually active and more likely to use an effective means of contraception. Many parents are not able to provide all the information about sex that young people need. Only a few ever got a good idea from their parents that helped them talk about sexual issues with their girlfriend/ boyfriend.  Parents must be the primary source of information about sexual and reproductive health for their children and not what they learn from their friends or through media or from the internet. Our son’s favourite line being “All my thirst for sex was quenched the day I discussed it with my dad.”

Consent.   It is about teaching respect, to be aware of personal boundaries, the body, space, and touch. For older students, discussions can delve into sexuality, relationships, and communication.

Mental and Physical Health.   Healthy Mind in a Healthy Body is an age-old adage which to date stands good. While physical education is often covered, many schools ignore students’ mental health. Mental health issues often develop during the school-age years. Children must be helped in coping techniques for stress and depression such as meditation and mindfulness.  At home, talk about taboo topics like addiction and suicide, and make them destigmatise mental health issues.

Behavioral Sciences.   A must to make our children understand their minds better. Discussions at home about behavioral science can help them understand what motivates them, why they make the decisions they do. Helping them to set their aims and goals based on their dreams and aspirations is a parental duty. Please click here for Dreams, Aims and Goals

Stress Management.   “What is the most important aspect of growing up as a high-school student?” I asked Nikhil.  “Stress management,” came a prompt reply.  “High-school life is all about managing stress – academic stress, parental stress, peer stress.  Thank you, Dad, I did not have any stress from my parents.

How to Speak in Public and Sell an Idea.   Confident children will make quality friends, gain the trust of partners or employers.  They must articulate in such a way that it makes sense to the listeners. Voice modulation is an important aspect of it and the children must be trained at it.  Please click here to read about it.

Profanity.  Parents must set an example and children will follow.  How to help teens overcome profanity, please click here.

Time Management and Discipline.   Both our children said their time management skills helped them to be successful high-school and university students.  One got to be on time for the class, for your submissions etc; otherwise, one is sure to lose marks. They had to ensure on-time submission, even if the work was incomplete and may not be of the standard wished – this fetched them some marks than getting none.

First Aid.   First-aid training is a lifesaving skill that children can use throughout their lives. If taught at home, it will prepare students to help their classmates and family members in the event of an emergency.  Please click here.

Voting.   Low percent voter turnout in recent elections all over the world can be attributed to lack of awareness among voting-age children. Parents must teach children about citizenship and participation in the democratic process, history of voting and as to how each one’s vote counts.

Cooking.   Joint cooking sessions at our home were both chaotic and fun. Cooking taught them about food, nutrition, and diet.  For further reading, please click here.

Gardening.   Growing food is a hands-on experience for children to learn about where food comes from, develop healthy eating habits, get some outdoor exercise, and work together to accomplish a goal.

Home Maintenance.   Children must be taught the basics of home maintenance. They must be capable of changing a light bulb to driving a nail on the wall.  This will arm the children with practical, empowering skills that they can use for a lifetime.

Car or Bike Maintenance.   As they grow up, our children will drive a car or ride a bike.  It will be a good idea to learn how to maintain them. Practical skills like learning how to change a flat tire, change the oil in the car, or replace the brake pads on your bike will foster a sense of empowerment, self-confidence, and accomplishment.  Who other than parents can impart such training?

Religion.  Religion must be discussed at home.  Both evolution and creation of humankind must be discussed. Meditation must be practised as a calming mental exercise, not a path to enlightenment.  Teaching about world religions is the better approach, as it erases stereotypes of religious minorities and fill a pressing need to reduce ignorance about religion.

Human and Animal Rights.  Incorporating human and animal rights during discussions can be a good way to prevent bullying, discrimination, and promote inclusion and respect for diversity.  Make children aware that no matter our ethnicity, gender, colour, religion, language, sexual orientation, or any other status, we are all equally entitled to our human rights without discrimination.  Having a pet or two at home will encourage children to be empathetic to animals.

Gender Identity.   Children should know whether you identify as male, female, transgender, non-binary, gender-neutral, or anything else, gender identity affects us all. Tackling issues head-on can help the next generation learn to be more kind, open, and understanding.

Media Literacy.   In the era of fake news, teaching critical thinking and media literacy at home is more important than ever. Children must be capable of sifting through it all with a critical eye.  Please read To Post or not to.

Digital Etiquette.   So much of Childrens’ lives are spent online, making it essential to teach digital etiquette at home. From protecting their privacy to avoiding digital drama, children need to learn how to treat others with respect online, avoid cyber-bullying, and safeguard themselves from online predators.

Alcohol and Marijuana.  Countries like Canada have made both legal with strict Minimum Legal Drinking Age (MLDA.) In Canada MLDA is 19 years, but children device dubious means to get around it.  How we trode through it, Please click here.

A family is not a private limited company of the parents but is a public company where the parents and children all have equal stakes. Along with the stakes comes duties and responsibilities. It is mandatory for the parents to ensure that they do their bit and that the children do theirs.  Making the children do chores at home, making them participate in all family activities, ensuring that their academic pursuits are successful, encouraging them to pursue their hobbies and interest and their sporting interests and above all communicating with them to achieve the aforesaid is what the parents got to do.

A home should be a safe place where the children can mess up.  It is not a place for perfection.  The parents must guide the children to come out of the mess they create so that they are better prepared to face the world outside full of hatred, judgment, sarcasm, and violence.  

A home should be a retreat where the members can find comfort, rest, and healing.  A place where children can return after a difficult event or a failure, where they will not be rebuked or made fun of.

Trust and Turnout  

A decade and a half ago, Veteran Major General Jambusarwalla and Mrs. Hufreez Jambusarwalla visited Niagara Falls, US side.  We all decided to meet them there as they did not have a Canadian Visa. Our children were very excited to meet the General as they had heard from their dad a great deal about the wonderful human being and adorable military leader worthy of emulation. It is believed that on the first day of raising the Artillery Division, the General called his two principal staff officers and said to them, “To be efficient the formation must first be happy. You look after the happiness part and I the efficiency part.

 Much as the General requested us not to bother, I wasn’t going to miss this opportunity to meet someone whom I so admired and more so I wanted the children to meet him. On the appointed day, we set out from home, crossed the international border and reached the hotel where the couple were to check-in. We received them there, and on meeting us, the General quipped with characteristic humour, “What better can a retired General from the Indian Army ask for at the Niagara Falls than a General Salute from a Colonel and family.” We then had dinner and shared a couple of wonderful hours together. The children were overwhelmed by the couple’s warmth and love.

One anecdote that he narrated particularly warmed the cockles of my heart. Interacting with Nikhil the General said, “Your Dad was arrogant and a bit of it did rub on his soldiers.”

“You can’t be serious Sir!” I interjected.

In a positive way, I must add,” said the General and he narrated an incident that occurred while he was the Commandant at the School of Artillery and our Regiment – 125 SATA Regiment – a cooperating unit with the School.

“Most evenings Hufreez and I went on a long walk in the cantonment.  Generally, the soldiers walking in the opposite direction conveniently turned left or right as they understandably preferred not to confront a General.   Few soldiers with a bit of instilled confidence walked past us smartly with a greeting. One evening, when two soldiers crossed us with a smart greeting, I said to Hufreez, ‘They are from 125 SATA.’ She wasn’t convinced and said that possibly I was needlessly over-impressed with the Commanding Oficer. The next evening a similar event occurred. When two soldiers crossed us, I summoned them after they greeted us and I asked them, ‘Which Regiment are you from?’

Both said in unison ‘Sir, 125 SATA Regiment,’ visibly proud and confident.”

While driving back, our son Nikhil said that the General was so down-to-earth and that he did not fit into the frame of a General that he had in mind. He was expecting a rigid, tall and a perfect military figure from what he had heard about him, but what he experienced was a simple human being full of energy, warmth and lots of humour, who came down to a kid’s level to enable a smooth and easy interaction. Nikhil summed up his final opinion with a statement – He is very Napoleonic.

Great things in your life will mostly come in short packets. One’s got to look for them, identify them, explore them, imbibe them and learn from them,” was my reply.

As I continued to drive homeward, I reminisced about the unit I commanded and my effort to transform the outlook of the boys. On assuming command of the Regiment while we were deployed in Rajasthan in 2002, my first command order was a somewhat quixotic one about dress code for soldiers.  Please click here to read.

On returning to Devlali after the operational deployment, I was irked by the number of worthless documents/registers that the unit maintained. The first to be thrown out the window was the Out Pass Register. To my mind, Out Pass is the vestige of the British Indian Army where the officers – mostly British – did not have the requisite faith in the Indian soldiers. They had to instill checks and procedures to reduce their movements in civil areas, particularly with a view to minimise the effect of any possible subversive influence.

We did away with the Out Pass Register as I had complete trust in our soldiers that they will abide by orders and instructions and will conduct themselves in a soldierly manner when outside the Regiment, more so under the pressure of such a trust. The need to treat them as soldiers worthy of trust rather than as jail inmates was foremost in my thoughts. The soldiers’ trust in the command echelons too increased manifold by this action that they realised their actions should not bring any blot on the Regiment. Instructions were passed that any soldier leaving the Regimental area only needed to inform his Section/ Platoon Commander about his going out and the likely time of return. It was a little thing with a big impact.

The only covenant was that they should all be smartly turned out in their Sunday best – pants, full-sleeved shirt tucked in, belt and leather shoes, well groomed hair, aptly perfumed.

One morning when I complimented the Stick Orderly – Gunner Deepak Pathak on his turnout, he replied, “Sir your orders on out-pass and soldiers’ turnout have gone down well with everyone. Even  Havildar Dharambir (Kabaddi Team Captain and Soccer Team Vice Captain – Please click here to read more about Havildar Dharambir) has shed his favourite Kurta-Pyjamas and now wears full-sleeved shirts and pants.”

Are the Indian Navy’s sonars and radars switched On?

For more about Gen Jambusarwalla, please click here.

Risky Play

The Canadian Paediatric Society has released new guidance for unstructured, outdoor play for children, emphasizing how important risky play can be for their health and well-being.[1]  The report finds risky play can improve physical, mental, and social health, and help prevent or manage health conditions like obesity, anxiety, and behavioural issues.

During our vacation to our native place in Kerala in October 2019, standing next to our ancestral home, I could see in my mind’s eye the front courtyard where once a Guava tree stood, leaning on to the roof.  I narrated to Marina as to how we as kids – I was less than ten years old – used to climb the Guava tree to leap on to the roof, may be to pick up a ball that had got caught on the roof tile or just for fun.  Marina then came out with a story of a similar Guava tree in her ancestral home and how she executed many similar monkey tricks.

The mere sight of the high roof sent a chill up my spine as I could not even fathom my climbing it now.  The thought struck me that perhaps I would never even have permitted our children the fun of climbing on such a tree and get on to the roof.  The question that intrigued me was ‘How come parents of those days allowed their children such (mis)adventures?‘   After we children grew up into our teens, our father cut the guava tree in 1976 as it was posing a threat to the very existence of the tiles on the roof. Moreover, we children had grown too old to climb on the rooftop to clear the fallen leaves, a periodic ritual.

Opportunities for children to engage in outdoor free play have declined significantly in recent years due to parental worries about play-related injuries.  Television, Internet, electronic gizmos – all have turned the children into lazy people. During our childhood, we never reported any minor play related injuries to our parents, else it invited harsh punishments and restrictions.  The fun of our childhood pranks was all about the thrills of beating the hazards & risks and reducing the chance of getting caught by our parents or neighbours.

United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child has listed children’s right to play as a fundamental right[2].

It is the duty of the parents to ensure that the safety of their children only as much as necessary.  They must be aware of the child’s abilities and confidence but the thrill and uncertainty of playing at heights, speeds, wilderness, dark nights, etc are beneficial, so are supervised activities like wall climbing, animal petting, camping, trekking, etc.

What is risky play?

Risky play is defined as thrilling and exciting forms of free play that involve uncertainty of outcome and a possibility of physical injury.  It includes: –

  • Playing at Height   :   Climbing, jumping, balancing at height
  • Playing at Speed   :   Bicycling at high speed, sledding, sliding, running
  • Play Involving Tools   :   Supervised activities involving an axe, saw, knife, hammer, or ropes
  • Playing near fire or water
  • Rough-and-tumble play, Wrestling, play fighting, fencing with sticks
  • Exploring play spaces, neighbourhoods, or woods without adult supervision, or in the case of young children, with limited supervision

Risky play is essential for children’s development and for their physical, mental, and social health. Restrictive rules about play at home, daycare or school have impacted children’s health. During risky play, children learn to recognise and evaluate challenges, which will in turn help them develop confidence in their decisions and abilities. Risky play can also help children with disabilities develop autonomy and reduce social exclusion.

The children got to experience and recognise the risks while outdoors, near water and fire.  Trekking through the forests, camping overnight at camp sites will teach them to recognise such risks and learn how to manage it – all under parental supervision.

It does not mean that parents must push their children ignoring safety measures and leaving children unsupervised in hazardous areas.  The parents must be aware of the hazards and be ready to intervene if there is any potential harm.

Risk is inherent to free play. When children play spontaneously, they may choose to push boundaries and test limits. Risky play encourages creative, spontaneous play, first by eliminating hazards, then by supporting risk-taking that is chosen and controlled by the child and appropriate to her/his experience and ability.

The biggest risk is not taking any risk… In a world that changing really quickly, the only strategy that is guaranteed to fail is not taking risks. – Mark Zuckerberg 
Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.” – T. S. Eliot 


[1] https://cps.ca/en/documents/position/outdoor-risky-play  Healthy childhood development through outdoor risky play: Navigating the balance with injury prevention | Canadian Paediatric Society (cps.ca)

[2] https://www.unicef.org/child-rights-convention Convention on the Rights of the Child | UNICEF

Cabin Crew – Arm Doors and Cross Check

2024 began with incidents involving aircraft doors in North America. On 07 January 2024, the door plug from an Alaskan Airlines Boeing 737 Max came off about 10 minutes after it took off from Portland International Airport.  The aircraft was at about 16,000 feet when the incident occurred.  After about 20 minutes, the aircraft made an emergency landing at Portland Airport safely.

The door plugs are inserted where emergency exit doors would be located.  The plug is secured in place by bolts that prevent the mechanism from moving upward on rollers when the plane is in flight.

The blowout created a partial vacuum inside the aircraft that twisted the metal of the seats nearby, and snatched cellphones, headsets and even the shirt off the teenager’s back.  Luckily, the two seats closest to the blown-out hole were unoccupied.

The Fasten Seat-belt sign was on at the time of the incident and the seat-belt saved the teenager.  The pilot generally keeps the sign on until reaching cruising altitude. Different airlines have different policies on turning off the sign – some until reaching cruising altitude, some at 18,000 feet and some at 10,000 feet – if the pilots feel it safe.

The oxygen masks dropped immediately, and the flight attendants moved passengers from the area where the blowout occurred. The roaring wind was so loud that passengers could hardly hear the captain’s announcements.

The pilot immediately descended to 10,000 feet, where there is enough oxygen for everyone onboard to breathe.  If the blowout had happened a few minutes later, after the plane reached cruising altitude, the accident might have become a tragedy.

A passenger on an Air Canada flight from London, UK, to Toronto allegedly tried to open the aircraft doors mid-flight on 21 January 2024.  He had to be restrained by the crew as part of their flight and safety protocols, which allowed for the flight to continue normally to Toronto.

Police entered the aircraft once the plane landed and found the passenger, an elderly man, in a state of crisis and confusion.  The Police said, “It does not appear that his actions were intentional.” The Police did not lay any criminal charges.

Is it possible to open the doors of an aircraft mid-flight?

It is not possible to open aircraft doors at high altitude as the doors are designed to act as a plug that takes advantage of the differences in internal and external air pressure to create a secure seal. Try opening the pressure cooker at home when it is under pressure!!!

“Cabin crew – arm doors and cross check” – You will hear this from the cockpit, over the aircraft’s Public Address System at the start of every flight as the aircraft starts to push back from the gate. It means that the door is ready for use in an emergency evacuation.  Once armed, if the door is opened, the escape slide or raft will deploy and inflate – in less than six seconds.

An aircraft is pushed back from the gate by a tractor to avoid the need for reverse thrust from the engines. Reverse thrust requires high engine power and creates a high-speed jet blast. This blast can distribute debris that can cause injuries to ground crew and may damage airport terminals, aero-bridges, and ground vehicles.

After landing, you will hear the pilot ask the crew to “Cabin Crew – disarm all doors,” (there is no Check Back here) meaning that the emergency slide has been deactivated.

On 08 January 2024, a passenger with Air Canada was injured after he opened the cabin door and fell out of the plane onto Toronto Airport’s tarmac on a flight to Dubai, resulting in a six-hour delay. The man boarded the aircraft, but instead of going to his seat, opened the cabin door at the opposite end of the plane and jumped on to the tarmac.  He sustained minor injuries and was attended to by the emergency services.  As per Police, the man was in a state of crisis when the incident occurred and suffered relatively minor injuries. He was apprehended by police and transported to a local hospital for treatment.

Confrontations on flights have increased since the pandemic started, with some altercations captured and replayed on social media.

Passengers do become anxious with the onset usually prior to boarding and continues throughout the flight, with more reports of anxiety on longer flights. In one unusual case, a man complained of physical ill-health, which resulted in diversion of the plane for his hospitalisation. He was diagnosed with ‘Jet-set Munchausen Syndrome.’

Munchausen’s syndrome is named after a German aristocrat, Baron Munchausen, who became famous for telling wild, unbelievable tales about his exploits and past. Munchausen Syndrome is when someone tries to get attention and sympathy by falsifying, inducing, and/or exaggerating an illness. They lie about symptoms, manipulate medical tests, or harm themselves. Diagnosing and treating Munchausen syndrome is difficult because of the patient’s dishonesty. In simple military terms – it is Shamming.

As per a study by Miller, Warren & Zarcone, Vincent. (1968), Psychiatric Behavior Disorders at an International Airport – suicidal ideation – may occur during flight in people who are mentally unwell. On rare occasions, the aircraft itself is used as the means of suicide.

Lester, D (2002) in an article Suicide and Aircraft Crisis in The Journal of Crisis Intervention and Suicide Prevention, describes two instances of commercial aircraft crashing because of a suicidal passenger killing the pilot and co-pilot, resulting in the death of all the passengers. In each case the perpetrator had purchased life insurance, presumably to benefit his family. Disappearance of Malaysia Airlines Flight MH370 on 08 March 2014 will arise in the reader’s mind.

Another psychotic behaviour is Airport Wandering. In certain psychotic patients whose conflicts relate to separation and reunion demonstrate a causal relationship between airport settings and ideas relating to abandonment and reuniting with family. They may be found wandering in various airports around the world.

Although the frequency of psychiatric emergencies is much lower than that of other medical emergencies in-flight, the public is likely to be less tolerant of such incidents. Control of disturbed behaviour in an aircraft poses much greater potential hazards than on the ground. Seriously dangerous incidents in the air are fortunately statistically rare but have a high public impact.

In future, Will there be a need to prove psychological stability prior to boarding an aircraft?  Or Will the airlines screen the passengers for psychological stability?

Christmas Travel

This Christmas vacation, we travelled to the United States to visit our relatives.  Christmas was as usual celebrated at our daughter Nidhi’s place on 25 Dec.  We gave thanks to the God for ensuring that we had a fruitful year. Early morning of 26 Dec, we set out from Toronto Airport to Washington. 

As we were packing our bags, our son Nikhil said that he will take care of the baggage.  He said that as a member of the Canadian Armed Forces, he is allowed three pieces of baggage.  Thus, Marina and I packed one suitcase; Nidhi, her husband Jay and our grandson James packed one suitcase; Nikhil and his wife Rain packed one.

Immediately, I checked the Air Canada website and it said ‘Members of the Canadian military benefit from an enhanced baggage allowance whenever they travel on a flight operated by Air Canada. Eligible active and retired members of the Canadian military are entitled to check up to three pieces of checked baggage, each weighing up to 32 kg (70 lb) each.  The allowance is applicable to the member of the military and is valid for both personal and duty travel.’

WestJet, a private Canadian airline also offers military baggage allowance for active and veteran Canadian military personnel for personal or business reasons. Canadian Armed Forces members are allowed to travel with up to four bags.  They also do not charge overweight/and or oversized bag fees.

Porter, another Canadian private airline also offers baggage allowance. Canadian military personnel are eligible for an enhanced baggage allowance. Baggage fees will be waived for up to three pieces of checked baggage.

Another Canadian ultra-low-cost airline, Swoop, also offers exemptions for military baggage.  According to Swoop’s website, any active or veteran Canadian military personnel are entitled to two checked bags free and one carry-on bag free.

Canada’s women and men in uniform have made an unwavering commitment to defend Canada and Canadians, and they deserve the same solid support from their government. Canada’s new defence policy provides the resources and capabilities our members need to succeed in their missions both at home and abroad.” Parliamentary Secretary Sherry Romanado

Conical Flag or Honourable Flag

A flag is a piece of cloth which can be attached to a pole, which is used as a sign, signal, or symbol of something, especially of a particular country.  It is normally flown at full most – atop a pole.

The national flag is the highest and most recognisable symbol of national pride, a symbol of a nation’s glory. It displays the sense of belonging and pride to the citizens. Certain flag etiquettes and norms are attached to the use of the national flag. The flag is to be prepared and used according to the prescribed size, dimensions and colour. It should never touch the ground. If a flag is damaged, torn or discoloured, then it must be disposed off in a dignified manner according to the rules.

Recently, I have noticed a tendency in the Indian Armed Forces to display the national Flag in a conical shape, especially in offices of senior officers and in auditoriums.  It goes against the basic tenets of the Indian Flag Code.

As per the Indian Flag Code – Para 2.2(v) – When a flag is displayed on a speaker’s platform, it should be flown on the speaker’s right as he faces the audience or flat against the wall, above and behind the speaker.

Indian Flag Code Para 2.2(ix) says that the Flag should not be used as a festoon, rosette or bunting or in any other manner for decoration.

Flags are half-masted as a sign of respect and to express a collective sense of sorrow during a time of national mourning. National flags are recognised throughout the world as the ultimate symbol of their respective nations, the act of half-masting is a dramatic visual statement that speaks to the sense of loss that is shared by all their citizens.

When lowering a flag to the half-mast position, it must first be raised to the masthead (top of the flagpole) then lowered slowly to the half-mast position. To lower a flag that is at the half-mast position, the flag is first hoisted to the masthead, and then lowered completely.

In Canada, Flags placed on a flagpole with cravat on a flagpole with base as a sign of mourning. This practice was customary in former times but has faded in modern times. The flagpole is placed at the entrance of the building (indoors, never outdoors). The flag is draped with a piece of black crepe (ribbon, tied in a bow at the base of the finial. The ends, cut diagonally, should hang halfway down the sleeve of the flag. A cravat is never attached to the National Flag of Canada.

The portion of the US Flag denoting honour is the canton of blue containing the stars representing states and the soldiers. The field of blue dresses from left to right and is inverted only when draped as a funeral cloth over the casket of a soldier/ veteran who has served the US in uniform.

At events, such as military funerals, the US Flag is folded thirteen times.  After the flag is completely folded and tucked in, it has the appearance of a cocked hat, reminding of the soldiers who served under General George Washington, the sailors and marines who served under Naval Commander John Paul Jones. The thirteen folds represent: –

  • The first fold is a symbol of life.
  • The second fold is a symbol of our belief in eternal life.
  • The third fold is made in honour and remembrance of the soldiers/ veterans, who gave a portion of their life for the defence of the country.
  • The fourth fold represents the American citizens trusting in God, it is Him we turn to in times of peace, as well as in times of war, for His divine guidance.
  • The fifth fold is a tribute to the country.
  • The sixth fold is a pledge of allegiance to the flag of the United States of America.
  • The seventh fold is a tribute to the armed forces.
  • The eighth fold is a tribute to the mother.
  • The ninth fold is a tribute to womanhood.
  • The tenth fold is a tribute to father.
  • The eleventh fold represents the lower portion of the seal of King David and King Solomon and glorifies the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.
  • The twelfth fold represents an emblem of eternity.
  • The thirteenth and last fold, when the flag is completely folded, the stars are uppermost, reminding USA’s national motto, In God We Trust.

Covering of the dead with flags and carried from the field of battle on a caisson – this custom began during the Napoleonic Wars (1796-1815.)

Paragraph 3.58 of the Indian Flag code states that on occasions of state/ military/ central para- military forces funerals, the flag shall be draped over the bier or coffin with the saffron towards the head of the bier or coffin. The flag shall not be lowered into the grave or burnt in the pyre.

When the U.S. flag covers the casket, it is placed so the union blue field is at the head and over the left shoulder. It is not placed in the grave and is not allowed to touch the ground.

In Canada, being laid to rest with the flag is an honour that is not solely reserved for the funerals of soldiers, veterans and dignitaries; all Canadians are eligible. As the National Flag belongs to all Canadians, any Canadian may choose to have their casket draped with the flag. When draping a casket, the top of the leaf should point to the right and the stem to the left when observing from the foot of the casket.

Historically, during naval warfare or acts of maritime piracy, enemy ships may have deceived their targets by flying the colours of allied nations before hoisting their proper identifying flags at the time of attack. This may be the origin of the expression to show one’s true colours, meaning to reveal one’s true nature after misleading or deceiving behaviour.

The things that the flag stands for were created by the experiences of great people. Everything that it stands for was written by their lives. The flag is the embodiment, not of sentiment, but of history – Thomas Woodrow Wilson, the 28th president of the United States from 1913 to 1921. 

Fingerprint

Recently visited the home of one of our patients – an old lady – 89 years old – undergoing dialysis.  She is the widow of an Indian Soldier who retired in 1977.

Tried doing the Jeevan Praman – a biometric enabled digital service for Indian pensioners by capturing her fingerprint. I tried all her ten fingers three times. It always gave an error –Biometric Data did not match!

The lady had her fingerprints registered on the Aadhar system 15 years ago – with age her fingerprints did not change – it does not change for any humans.

It becomes difficult to capture our fingerprints as we age. This is because the skin loses elasticity with age, and the patterns become less prominent due to the thickening of ridges and Valleys (furrows.) The pores of our skin also become less lubricated, which affects the surface of our fingertips.

A permanent scar could alter someone’s fingerprint. There are also specific jobs that can impact fingerprints – construction workers, especially bricklayers and people who wash dishes by hand and people who work with chemicals such as calcium oxide. This is temporary, and once they stop these activities, the ridges grow back.

Certain skin diseases can temporarily alter fingerprints.  Damaged skin – due to burns or corrosion due to chemical interaction – can reproduce cells to form fingerprints exactly as they were before they were damaged unless the cut penetrates the dermis – the inner layer of the two main layers of our skin.

A suggested method to fingerprint for the senior citizens is by Milking the Finger – to raise the fingerprint ridges prior to printing. This technique involves applying pressure or rubbing the fingers in a downward motion from palm to fingertip.  Applying some natural oils may help your finger’s ridges be more visible.  For better results, choose a ring finger or middle finger of the non-dominant hand.

A study published in the July 14, 2015, edition of Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences found fingerprint identification becomes less reliable as the time interval between two sets of prints being taken increases, which suggests that the ridges on a person’s fingertips may change slightly over the course of a person’s life.  That is why one must update one’s biometrics.

Some criminals intentionally alter their fingerprints, sometimes on their own and occasionally with the help of medical professionals. These alterations distort their usual fingerprint pattern and make it difficult to identify those fingerprints. The mutilation include cutting lines into the skin, vertically or in a zig-zag pattern, in an attempt to both remove portions of the fingerprint and cause the skin to heal in a fashion which overlaps the old print and alters it significantly. They have also been known to burn their fingerprints using both heat and chemical sources. The intention here is to scar or entirely destroy the fingerprint and prevent identification.

A question came up – Can a dead person’s fingerprint be used for biometrics?

A recently dead one, whose body is well preserved — it may work. One may have to forcibly straighten the fingers stiffened from rigor mortise. It becomes a lot more difficult with a corpse that has undergone some degree of decomposition or desiccation or has soaked in water so that the skin has softened.

Medical examiners can surgically remove a dead person’s hands or fingers and send them to a lab where more advanced techniques can be employed. For skin that’s badly deteriorated, it may be possible to use silicone putty to make a casting that captures the detail of the fingerprint ridges. Those impressions can then be photographed and used in identification.

In a study published Nov. 5, 2013, in GMS Interdisciplinary Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery DGPW, researchers looked at the effectiveness of a technique called thanatopractical processing, in which fluid is extracted from other parts of a body’s remains and used to restore tenseness and volume to the fingers to fatten them for printing.

How long do fingerprints remain usable? There isn’t a lot of research on that subject. A study published in December 22, 2016, in IEEE Xplore and described in a 2017 USA Today article, usable biometric data has been obtained from corpses dead for up to four days in warm weather and as long as two months in winter.

Anil Jain, a professor of computer science at Michigan State University and expert on biometric technology says that a rotting body changes shape, including the digits, which distorts the fingerprints. How fast the body rots depend on where it was found or stored.  As per Jain, body parts under water and in very hot climate will decompose much faster. He claims that a fingerprint can be reconstructed by making a conductive copy of the deceased’s finger.

In his lab, researchers have accomplished this by first making an impression of a finger using the same material dentists used to make molds of teeth. Next, they put conductive silicone or gelatin inside the mold to make a cast. Once the fake finger is extracted from the mold, it was used to spoof a conductive fingerprint scanner. Jain said the lab has unlocked multiple devices using this technology.

Can you unlock a smart with a spoofed fingerprint?

According to Apple’s website, Touch ID won’t work by itself after it has gone unused for 48 hours. At that point, a pass-code or password must be entered for additional validation to unlock a phone.  The Samsung website says that if your phone has not been used for more than 24 hours, you will need to use your PIN, password, or pattern instead of your fingerprint.

Amazon series Bosch – Season 4 – shows the Los Angeles Police Department detective going to the morgue and pressing a corpse’s thumb to the screen of a mobile phone, to unlock it and see if there are any clues in the murder victim’s data.  It did work in the in the reel life, but in real life, it does not. Once a tissue is dead, it loses all its electrical charge and will fail to activate a phone’s fingerprint sensor, making it impossible to unlock.

Your footprints – you leave them on the sands of time. Your fingerprints – you leave them with your Pension Sanctioning Authority.

Salamander Crossing

While driving to Richmond Hill, a suburb of Toronto, the GPS re-routed me to avoid the road closure on Stouffville Road. I turned on the radio and it said that when it rains in October, a portion of Stouffville Road in Richmond Hill is closed so that the endangered Jefferson Salamanders can cross the road in safety.  The road is also closed in spring (March – April) to facilitate their safe crossing.

Our Grade 5 Biology textbook had the Salamander as an example of an amphibian along with the frog.  We were all familiar with the frog, but not the salamander.  Mr Venky, our biology teacher at Sainik School Amaravathinagar said it is a lizard like amphibian and is an inhabitant of North and South America.

Salamanders are tailed amphibians belonging to the order Caudata. There are around 800 known species worldwide. North America is home to more species of salamanders than anywhere else in the world.

Most salamanders resemble lizards and are sometimes erroneously mistaken for them. However, as amphibians, salamanders lack scales and claws and have moist, glandular skin.  They breathe through gills, lungs, the lining of their mouth, and their skin, sometimes in combination, sometimes separately.

Salamanders feed on insects, worms, snails, and other small animals, including members of their own species. Like other amphibians, they absorb water through their skin, and they require a moist habitat. In regions where the temperature goes below freezing, they often hibernate.

During October, the Jefferson Salamanders, an endangered species, scuttle across the Stouffville Road as they migrate from their summer breeding grounds to return to their winter habitat in the deciduous forest. A section of Stouffville Road is in the Oak Ridges, which has many of the features the Jefferson salamander requires, including undisturbed natural forests, rocky outcrops, wetlands and ponds.  As the temperature drops, they make their way across the road, to their winter habitat in the deciduous forest to survive the cold. Most Jefferson Salamanders relocate on rainy nights.

Come spring and the salamanders, under the cover of night, poke their heads out of the burrows in the deciduous forests as first warm rains hit the ground.  They cross the road to breed in swamps, ponds or even roadside ditches.

Most adult salamanders hide by day and feed by night. Some remain hidden underground until the breeding season, or they may emerge only when levels of moisture and temperature are appropriate.

Salamanders can sense vibrations but are unable to hear. They have two nostrils connected to the mouth, eyes that often have movable lids, a tongue that is often protrusible, a skeleton that is largely bony, and a three-chambered heart.

Like all amphibians, salamanders are Ectotherms, meaning that they do not generate their own body heat. Instead, their body temperature is dependent on their environment. For example, amphibians can regulate their body temperature through behaviour and habitat use (e.g., by moving in and out of shade). This is known as Behavioural Thermoregulation.

While it’s unknown how many Jefferson salamanders currently live in the region, their population is generally assumed to be declining.  Such efforts by the municipality will go a long way in ensuring that their numbers grow.

Canadian Armed Forces – New Laws on Sexual Misconduct

On Aug. 15, 2023, Canadian Defence Minister Bill Blair announced that Canadian Armed Forces (CAF) members who experience sexual misconduct or harassment can now file a complaint directly with the Canadian Human Rights Commission instead of the internal military grievance process. 

The policy was one of the major pillars of Operation Honour, the military’s campaign to stamp out sexual misconduct in the ranks. Complaints about harassment and discrimination that are not based on sex will still be handled through internal military procedures.

The Human Rights Commission received 42 complaints about discrimination based on sex by military members between 2015 and 2021.  The number was likely so low because of a requirement to exhaust the internal grievance process before taking complaints outside the institution.

The change is to scrap a controversial Duty to Report policy that requires CAF members to report all incidents of misconduct, including sexual misconduct or racism, regardless of whether they were directly affected by them. Failing to report incidents of misconduct and wrongdoing was punishable under old military regulations.  The new policy will eliminate the obligation to report and penalties for not reporting and give members the opportunity to exercise discretion and choose the best path forward.

Although the Duty to Report has been in military regulations since the 1930s, it was given new life and extra teeth after a 2015 independent investigation into sexual misconduct found victims under-reported incidents because they feared reprisals and didn’t trust the investigation process.

A House of Commons committee report complained in 2019 that the rules on the policy were too vague.  Rather, the policy was ambiguous and difficult for the military to prosecute.

Duty to Report policy has long been criticised by victims of misconduct and independent observers like former Supreme Court justice Louise Arbour, who delivered a landmark report on sexual misconduct in the military last year. They have argued that by allowing bystanders to report wrongdoing, the policy took the Canadian Human Rights Commission away from victims who may or may not have wanted to speak up.

It was thought that the Duty to Report obligation could help ensure that incidents were not ignored or minimised, and that it would enhance protections for survivors.   the Duty to Report regulations have had unintended negative consequences for people affected by offences of an interpersonal nature, such as sexual misconduct or hateful conduct.

The new regulation aims to induce a culture where survivors, and all those affected by misconduct, feel safe, supported, and able to report wrongs on their own terms. Now, any sexual assault survivors can weigh their options. If they choose to remain silent, they do not have to fear further punishment or face unwelcome exposure if others inform on their predicament against their wishes.

The new regulation will apply to new and existing complaints, allowing military members to ask for an independent review before exhausting internal grievance processes. Modernising complaint processes is a key component of the efforts to bring in cultural changes in the CAF. It will ensure that CAF members access human rights justice swiftly.

Visit to a Lavender Farm

We spent a summer’s day outdoors, delighting in the calming showering fragrances and taking in the serenity of the purple-hued landscape of Avlon Lavender Farm. Avalon invites a special connection to nature. Literally meaning Isle of Fruit. The farm has over 30,000 lavender plants – English + French –  in 7 different cultivars.

Lavender or lavandula comes from the Latin word lavare meaning ‘to wash’, as Romans used it abundantly in their baths, hot spas & massages. In botanical terms, lavandula belongs to the mint family of scented plants, along with thyme, mint, sage and many others.

For a long time lavender or lavandula was known as a wild solitary plant. It grew high up on the hot, sunny slopes of mountains, away from civilized places on arid, uncultivated ground. Neither sown, nor cultivated, withstood the winds and the droughts, with two good friends: sun to grow and bees to pollinate. It wasn’t long before the shepherds spread their secrets and lavender descended from the hilltops to more accessible plateaus.

Lavender may have earned this name because it was frequently used in baths to help purify the body and spirit. However, this herb has also been used as a remedy for a range of ailments from insomnia and anxiety to depression and fatigue. Research has confirmed that lavender produces a slight calming, soothing, and sedative effects when its scent is inhaled.

From Greece, Egypt, Rome, English gardens, and the hills of Provence, lavender cultivation spread and it become an essential remedy for many ailments and well-being. Lavender subtle floral fragrance attracted soap and perfume makers, to make it the most versatile herb of all. Times came and gone, and still today, the ‘purple gold’ is unscathed choice as a true natural remedy for well-being and healing.

Lavandula angustifolia, also called True lavender or English lavender, is best known for its sweet, mellow scent, high quality essential oil, medicinal properties and it is a widely used culinary herb. Propagated by seeds and cuttings, it is cold and drought tolerant.

Lavandula X Intermedia known as French lavender is a hybrid between Lavandula angustifolia and Lavandula Latifolia, best known for its tall stalks, heady fragrance and high oil yield. It is used in aromatherapy and cosmetics. However it is not considered culinary lavender, due to its higher camphor content than Lavandula angustifolia. Lavandula X Intermedia flowers are sterile and propagation is done through cuttings. It is also cold and drought resistant.

Lavandula stoechas also known as Spanish lavender, grown more as ornamental plant than for oil distillation is more sensitive to cold winters.

At the Avlon Lavender farm, for an additional $10 at the door, you’ll be lent a scissors and given a bundle bag to fill with your own freshly cut lavender. Typically the bundle bag holds far more than $10 of fresh lavender, so this is great and economical way to enjoy the experience of harvesting your own lavender.

A field worker will point you to a specially flagged garden for Guest Cut-Your-Own, and will be available to help you cut to ensure maximum health for our lavender and your bouquet.

At the farm, 30 free-range lavender orpington hens love their life of grazing and adoration here at Avalon. Guests continue to fall in love with their curious and friendly temperaments.

To harvest the oils and hydrosols from lavender flowers, distillation is done with a Portuguese copper still. The process spreads aroma of fresh lavender.

At the end of the day, we all felt that it was worth the effort to visit the Avalon Lavender Farm at Mona, about 90 minutes drive from our home.

Badlands of Ontario, Canada

Featuring rust red undulating topography, the Cheltenham Badlands is part of an area designated as a UNESCO World Biosphere Reserve, and it plays a vital role in geographical conservation. It is a series of bare, windswept red hills and gullies in southern Ontario that formed due to overgrazing. In the 1930s, the area was still productive farmlands, but poor farming practices resulted in the creation of the rolling Martian landscape.

It is located at Caledon, about an hour away from Toronto and Mississauga and north of Brampton, on the Old Baseline Road.

The area was once fertile farmland as the settlers grew various crops, but the farming practices caused the erosion of shallow topsoil, exposing the underlying Queenston Shale. The changing seasons further accelerated the erosion of the shale, resulting in this unique landscape.

The Cheltenham Badlands is a landscape of rolling red rock made up of highly eroded and exposed Queenston Shale. The red hills were slowly revealed as the elements wore away the vegetation over the years. The bright red color is due to a high concentration of iron oxide, while the greenish streaks are a result of groundwater oxidizing the red rock.

The shale has now eroded into a series of hummocks and gullies, producing the distinctive landscape.  The striking landscape of the Cheltenham Badlands is one of Ontario’s geological treasures and is one of the best examples of Badland topography in the province.  As the shale supports little or no vegetation, it has left the area as barren badlands. The exposed geological processes displayed by the Badlands makes it a popular educational site for geology enthusiasts and tourists alike.

Earlier, this distinctive landscape was open fully, allowing visitors to walk over the formation. This resulted in accelerated erosion of the sensitive red shale surface and caused permanent changes to the Badland’s unique appearance.  To protect the Badlands from further erosion, the site was in 2015 and developed a boardwalk that closed off physical access to the Badlands by 2018.

Request for Assistance from Veteran Brigadier Josekutty Kurian

Annamma (name changed to protect privacy) is a frail, 85 year widow, on palliative care, due to multiple ailments. She has three sons and three daughters; elder son passed away over 10 years back, in a gruesome accident. The other two are casual labourers, egging out a living by rubber tapping. Augstin, the younger son, with whom Annamma stays, goes out for tapping at 5 am, toiling till evening making rubber sheets, earning a pittance at the end of it. His three children are in 7th, 6th and 2nd standard at a nearby school. 

Annamma’s two daughters are nuns serving in a congregation which runs 17 orphanages across the world, including in Africa and India. They look after mentally challenged orphans, many of whom are also physically challenged and fully bedridden. Because of financial constraints, they do not, as a policy, employ outside caregivers. All care is given by the nuns themselves, 24×7. Having been associated with them for over 15 years, my heart goes out to these nuns for their unwavering dedication to these deprived Children of Lesser Gods.

During one of my frequent visits to the orphanages, I heard of the miserable condition that the mother of these two nuns is living in. I thought it prudent to check it out and travelled by bus for four hours and thereafter trekked uphill half an hour to reach their ramshackle hut. What I saw shook my conscience. 

Here was the mother of two nuns doing utmost service to the suffering humanity, cuddled on a wet bed and room, due to constant leakage of the roof, due to monsoon rains. The family had no money to repair/ replace the tarpaulin of the leaking roof and other minimum work to make it livable. A cursory discussion with knowledgeable persons revealed it would take approx Rs 5 lac to make the house in a decent state, without constant leakage of the roof.

Humanity at large, particularly the neighbourhood, had every reason to hang its head in shame. But most villagers being in the deprived category, had little means to look after such a neighbour. 

I therefore appeal to the good Samaritans of this World, who have the heart, to contribute their might to ensure that this pious old lady has a decent ending, for the contribution she has made to make this world a better place to live for the mentally and physically challenged. Your contributions may kindly be sent directly to the bank account, details as under.

Name: Augstin Varghese 
SBI Acct # 32892797238 – IFSC code: SBIN0006459

Veteran Brigadier Josekutty Kurian, Indian Army Veteran Mob # +91 9619498282

A Firm Base in Canada

In the army, Firm Base is an important aspect of any attack. An attack must begin from a firm base and as the attack develops, commanders must continue establishing firm bases. This allows the attacking forces to maintain one foot on the ground and thus retain balance during the attack. Firm bases are established on terrain that provides the attacking forces an advantage in terms of fire and observation. A firm Base is a tactical area occupied by a part of the attacking force. In case the attack fails, the attacking troops fall back into the safe Firm Base.

In modern warfare involving international forces, a Firm Base can be described as a secure environment, at home and overseas, that sustains the Army, enables training for, and deployment on operations and ensures the consent and support of the public and host nations.

Applying this analogy to day to day living, our family, friends, community etc., provide us with a Firm Base at various stages in our lives as we tackle emerging challenges at school, college, our chosen career, breakup in a relationship, reversal in our fortunes and so on. When a person decides to leave his or her home and relocate overseas for higher studies or career prospects, initially one will feel like a fish out of the water as one adapts to a totally alien environment.

Who would need a firm Base in Canada?

Any new immigrant to Canada will require a Firm Base to fall back when the chips are down.  It isn’t easy to find one!

Recent immigrants to Canada who came seeking a new life, are here alone – with no close family or friends to help. They must adjust to living in a society that is new and strange. Some days are good, and some are bad. During the bad days, many wonder as to why at all did they decide to come to Canada. Over time, they adjust to the Canadian realities, feel comfortable, settle well and probably have more good days than bad.

During those days when they feel lost and down in the dumps, new immigrants need a Firm Base – a place they can go to, a person to whom they can confide their issues and seek advice and assistance.

We have been providing a Firm Base to many young people – mostly wards of Veterans – who immigrated to Canada. It begins with orienting them to the Canadian realities; providing food & accommodation for the settling down period; driving them to various Government offices for documentation; driving them to the grocery stores; finding schools for their children; help in rewriting their resumes; finding jobs; finding accommodation – the list goes on.

On 02 June 2023, at about 5 PM, I received a call from the Toronto Emergency Services, “Vicky, a University of Toronto student was evacuated by the ambulance as he had passed out on the streets of Toronto. Your number is listed as the emergency contact.” Vicky is the son of a Veteran friend. That day I was working on a tight schedule to meet an urgent business requirement. I rushed to the hospital. The drive that usually took 40 minutes, being a Friday evening, took 90 minutes.

Sheeba, daughter of a Veteran friend, was due for the delivery of her first child. Her parents could not get a Visa to be with their daughter. There was a minor complication and the gynecologist decided to induce labour before the due date. On the day she was admitted to the hospital with Shaan, her husband. I drove to their home – a drive of over an hour and stayed there for three days – to help them in case of any emergency or run any errands. By God’s grace, they were blessed with a smart boy without any complications.

Anmol, a Veteran who served for 15 years, a new immigrant, called me for help finding a job. I helped him rewrite his resume to a page and Bingo! He landed up as an Assistant Manager in a reputed firm.

A Veteran friend called me to say that his daughter Shrijani wanted a Canadian to co-sign the lease deed for an apartment as she was on a student Visa. I asked him to tell Shrijani to email me the form. In five minutes, I signed the form and returned it with my tax return. Shrijani was surprised that I did not ask her any questions. She said that her relatives in Canada asked her many questions, but declined to co-sign when it came to the requirement of attaching their tax return. They claimed that their Social Insurance Number (SIN) will be disclosed. (The tax return carries only the last three digits of the SIN – may be that their true economic status might be revealed.)

Hari, a Veteran’s son on immigration contacted me for help with settling down and finding a job. He was referred to by another Veteran who was my instructor in Army. He warned Hari, “He is a difficult man to understand, and it will take you a week to realise what he is worth. Listen to him and follow his instruction and you will do well in Canada.” Hari is today a Senior Project Manager with a leading Canadian bank.

Recently a Veteran friend called seeking help to resolve a domestic violence issue concerning his subordinate’s daughter. I refused to be involved in the case but advised him of the methodology to be followed. The same I reproduced as a Blogpost Canadian Immigration Woes – Please Click Here to Read.
A new immigrant is under a lot of professional, social, environmental, and academic pressure, and they need guidance to help them wade through. They cannot afford to fall through the cracks or become depressed or anxious.

A Firm Base will go a long way in ensuring a better future for the new immigrants.

Rose Garden – 2023

For centuries, roses have inspired love and brought beauty to those who have received them. In fact, the rose’s rich heritage dates back thousands of years. People have been passionate about roses since the beginning of time. We have over fifty bushes in our garden.

Jawaharlal Nehru, the first Prime Minister of India, was fond of Red rose. He always wore a Red rose on his jacket until his last breath.

Red is the most popular color of roses sold at Valentine’s Day, making up 60% of sales worldwide.

It is said that the floors of Cleopatra’s palace were carpeted with delicate rose petals. Shakespeare refers to roses more than 50 times throughout his writings. It is also New York’s state flower.

1,000 years old. That’s the age the world’s oldest living rose is thought to be. Today it continues to flourish on the wall of the Hildesheim Cathedral of Germany.

It was in seventeenth century that French explorer Samuel deChamplain brought the first cultivated roses to North America. Roses are truly ageless. Recently, archaeologists discovered the fossilized remains of wild roses over 40 million years old.

The people of ancient Greece used roses on festive occasions to adorn themselves with garlands of roses and splash themselves with rose-scented oil. Napoleon’s wife Josephine so adored roses, she grew more than 250 varieties.

The largest rose bloom ever bred was a pink rose measuring approximately 33 inches in diameter, bred by Nikita K. Rulhoksoffski from San Onofre, California.

Red roses are the traditional symbol for love, romance. It reflects beauty and perfection. Myth has it that Venus’ son Cupid accidentally shot arrows into the rose garden when a bee stung him, and it was the ‘sting’ of the arrows that caused the roses to grow thorns. When Venus walked through the garden and pricked her foot on a thorn, it was the droplets of her blood which turned the roses red.

Pink Rose depicts gentleness, grace, gladness, joy and sweetness. It also conveys happiness, gracefulness, and admiration. It’s an elegant choice, perfect for a daughter, mother, or sister.

Bright, cheerful, and joyful are what come to mind when thinking of a yellow rose. Giving yellow roses can tell someone the joy they bring you and the friendship you share.

White roses, the purist of colors, represent innocence, purity, and charm. White roses are traditionally used in weddings and can represent new beginnings. Why white roses are so special is no mystery – it’s a myth. Perhaps it started with the Romans who believed white roses grew where the tears of Venus fell as she mourned the loss of her beloved Adonis.

The fun, fiery orange color conveys a message of happiness and joy. Give them to friends or family—really anyone who could use a mood-lifter! Orange roses symbolise passionate romance.

Purple roses range from lavender to darker hues, is a colour of royalty. It symbolises love at first sight and sincerity.

Love at first sight or just an enchanting way to say, I love you! Lavender roses can offer a daily reminder of your love and eagerness to grow your relationship.

Peach coloured roses are a sweet choice as a gift to your sister, teacher, or friend. It depicts appreciation and gratitude or a different way to say Thank You! They symbolise innocence and purity.

Cream roses are indicative of charm and thoughtfulness and goes well with pink thank you roses. Gifting a bunch of cream roses is an ideal way to show someone that you care – but without any romantic intentions.

How did it happen that their lips came together? How does it happen that birds sing, that snow melts, that the rose unfolds, that the dawn whitens behind the stark shapes of trees on the quivering summit of the hill? A kiss, and all was said.” Victor Hugo

What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” William Shakespeare

Peonies 2023

Peonies are outrageously beautiful in bloom, with lush foliage. They bloom from late May through June in Toronto. The flowers last only two weeks.

Their stems are not strong enough to support the heavy blossoms, hence they need support. Peony cages are placed in spring around the plant as they grow.

Peony is named after Paeon (also spelled Paean), a student of Asclepius, the Greek god of medicine and healing. They are also the 12th anniversary flower – because the peony symbolises honour, fortune, and a happy relationship.. It is the state flower of Indiana.

Peonies are native to China. They are highly valued there, and are often referred to as the King of Flowers. They were the national flower prior to 1929, when they were replaced by the plum tree. Chinese name for the peony is Sho Yu meaning Most Beautiful.

Peonies of three types grow in our garden- Tree Peonies, Herbaceous Peonies and Itoh peonies.

Herbaceous peonies (also known as bush peonies) die to the ground in Winter. They re-emerge in March, or when the snow melts. Many find that they are deer resistant, but not always. Peonies are long lived, minimal care plants.

Tree peonies are called tree peonies for the woody stems that they have. Tree peonies have woody stems that defoliate in the fall, but the woody stems stay intact, above the ground. They tend to bloom earlier and with larger flowers than the bush peony.

Itoh or Intersectional peonies are a cross between the herbaceous (or bush) peony and the tree peony. These crosses have produced new, exciting colors. The plants have the lovely leaf form of the tree peonies, but die to the ground in the Winter. Since they are recent introductions and are still in short supply they command a high price.

Itoh Peonies derive its name from Japanese horticulturist, Dr. Toichi Itoh, who successfully created seven peony hybrids from a tree peony bred with an herbaceous peony. Dr. Itoh passed away before ever seeing his creations bloom. Years later, American horticulturist, Louis Smirnow bought some of these original Itoh peonies from Dr. Itoh’s widow and continued Itoh’s work.

Peonies like full sun, and though they can manage with half a day, they bloom best in a sunny spot. They come in every color except for blue. Pink, and white, are the most popular colours. Peonies can live upto a hundred years. In ancient times peonies were believed to relieve headaches and help with asthma.

The Netherlands is the largest cut peony producer (over 40 % of the estimated world production.)surprisingly, Alaska comes next.

In two weeks the flowers wither and the pods are exposed. Like most hybrid plants, the seeds of the peony plant will not breed true when planted and are unlikely to produce a flower like the original parent plant.

Cycling @ Niagara

Walking to the Butterfly Conservatory @ Niagara with our grandson James, Marina suddenly stopped and said, “What is this new road sign?”

I too looked at it carefully. It was that of a Bike Fix-it Station.
Niagara Falls is one of the most exciting cycling destinations in Ontario. The rolling landscape of the Region and breathtaking natural wonders provide a unique experience for enthusiasts or amateurs. From road courses to scenic trails, seeing Niagara on two wheels is not only great exercise but a memorable adventure.

On a drive to Niagara Falls, you will come across many cars laden with bicycles at the back. Varying sizes of the cycles indicate that it is a family activity for both adventure and for infotainment. Trains and buses to Niagara have special arrangements to carry bicycles.

Municipality of Niagara has established many Bike Fix-it Stations all along the cycling trails. Ontario Ministry of Tourism, Culture and Sport’s Bike Parking Capital Funding Program, Niagara Parks has undertaken a series of cycling amenity improvements along the Niagara River Recreation Trail, designed to enhance and promote cycling tourism in Niagara and Ontario.

The Fixit station includes all the tools necessary to perform basic bike repairs and maintenance, from changing a flat to adjusting brakes and derailleurs. The tools are securely attached to the stand with stainless steel cables and tamper-proof fasteners.

Hanging the bike from the hanger arms allows the pedals and wheels to spin freely while adjusting or repairing.

Every station is provided by a hand pump for tire inflation.

Cycling in Niagara is one of the best outdoor adventures to experience in Ontario. There are lots of paved bike paths, expansive green spaces, and beautiful waterways throughout Niagara Falls and Niagara region. It’s easy to hop on your bike and ride for days. The Parkway has been named one of the Top 10 cycling routes in the World, stretching over 58 km along the Canadian side of the Niagara River.
Learn to ride a bicycle. You will not regret it if you live – Mark Twain
The bicycle is the most civilised conveyance known to man. Other forms of transport grow daily more nightmarish. Only the bicycle remains pure in heart. – Iris Murdoch, Irish author

Canadian Immigration Woes

Negotiating the immigration process starting from filing of application, interview, preparing for transplantation into an unknown country and the actual process of moving and settling down  is often a difficult one. It involves many difficulties and unforeseen variables, such as delays, frustrations, and  expenditure. Most immigrants go through a period of turmoil at home and work as they settle in their new country. 

Recently I have been receiving calls from my military friends in India about their children or the children of their friends facing many immigration difficulties.  It is mostly about spousal ill-treatment or domestic violence.

Like many immigrants, we went through three stages: Pre-migration, Transition to Canada and amalgamating with the Canadian society & culture (Acculturation) and Settling down.

Acculturation issues many immigrant families undergo are: –

1. Adjusting to a new climate, especially the Canadian winter.

2. Biological changes associated with changes in diet.

3. Social changes associated with disruption of social networks, sudden changes to the political, economic and religious contexts of the immigrants.

4. Psychological changes such as the need to adapt to Canadian values and attitudes, especially in parenting.

Traversing through the stages of immigration and acculturation brings with it stresses and tensions in family life.  I’ve observed that women find jobs faster, mostly better paying than their husbands and this is very difficult for the patriarchal and egoistic Indian male to accept.  Not many will accept this Canadian reality.  That is why I quit my job as a supervisor at a call-center after six months as our children demanded that I be home when they were there.  They did not want to live in an empty home.   I quit my job to be a house husband. My wife who was doing a four-day week took to a five-day week as her 10 hours of extra work made up much more than what I earned in my 40-hour week and expenditure came down as I did not have to drive to work.

With the wife in a better position than the husband, the situation often  leads to fights ending in domestic violence or abuse.  The husband starts finding fault in trivial issues such as the dresses worn by the wife, her hair style, her spending too much money on pedicure & manicure, not taking adequate care of the husband & children – it’s an endless list. In such relationships the woman who is capable of often does walk out of such relationships to lead an independent life, sometimes with new partners. 

There is also an entirely different situation where the plight of the immigrant woman is a whole lot worse. Some women move into the household of her husband after marriage (Mail Order Brides – Please click here.)  These patriarchal households  often have a  strict hierarchy based on chronological age, and  predefined traditional Indian gender roles.   It is common for three or more generations to be living  together in such households with the family income being contributed to primarily by the young male members. Typical of the Indian joint family, more often than not, the parents of the husband   take many decisions concerning the married couple. Under such circumstances  the girl’s life becomes miserable and intolerable.

In such households, the bride is expected to cook, clean, and take care of many people other than her husband.  The hapless bride with a low language proficiency, inadequate knowledge about Canada and of her rights as a permanent resident/ immigrant, and lack of financial independence is forced to  continue the relationship however unsatisfactory.  The family never allows  her to go out alone or even speak to her friends and acquaintances in Canada.  She is denied access to the car and not allowed to drive – a need in Canada to be independent. She is sometimes denied a cellphone  and even access to the internet.  

The  wife’s dependence on the husband and his family increases her vulnerability. She is unaware of Canadian immigration laws and policies  that  make it possible for abused immigrant women to leave their sponsors and apply to the state for financial help.

The birth of a child adds to her woes and often puts her into a state of bonded labour.  If it is a girl child, her perils become multi-fold. Please click here to read my post on 4472 Missing Girls. She becomes enslaved to the household.  Fear of the husband claiming custody of the child by declaring that she is unfit to take care of the child instills further fear.  She is unaware of the support system that the Canadian Government provides for the single mother and for the children.

She feels helpless and powerless based on fear of losing custody of children to her husband if she  leaves the abusive home, and later the fear of state intervention and apprehension of her children by Children’s Aid Society.  Many Indian movies and TV debates have succeeded in implanting this fear in  the immigrant woman’s mind.

Abuse and violence aimed at Indian immigrant women is a complex social problem in Canada determined by a wide range of contributory factors such as Indian culture and the immigration process. Several characteristics of Indian society, including the position of women, arranged marriage, and family arrangements – influence the risk of domestic violence. The sources of incompatibility between husband and wife in immigrant families include disparities in age and attractiveness, sexual difficulties, and differences in caste and religion.  Continued existence under such conditions may well lead to tremendous psychological stress and serious mental illness.

What’s the way out of this rattrap?

The only way is for the woman concerned to take the bull by its horns.  She needs to be aware of all the help that she can get from the state. She should preferably be made aware of these before the immigration takes place. If not, her friends in Canada and loved ones back in India somehow need to make her aware of these. She then has no option but to develop the courage to walk out of these abusive relationships, seek the State’s help in either returning to India or finding an alternative life in Canada.

In case you are aware of someone in an abusive or toxic relationship in Canada, this webpage of the Government of Canada will be useful.

Help for spouses or partners who are victims of abuse – Canada.ca

Spring Tulips 2023

April rains bring in May flowers’ is a common saying in Canada. This year, tulips sprouted as the days warmed up in March to above 25o C, but the weather played truant like typical Canadian weather that come April – it was a winter blast – it was freezing. 

The trees bear flowers even before the leaves sprout. It is all because of a short summer available for them to grow fruits.

Tulips are spring flowers and it signals arrival of the coming of a new season. Most tulips have six petals, but some can have many more.

Tulips Originated in Persia and Turkey and were brought to Europe in the 16th century.

Cultivated varieties, referred to as ‘Dutch tulips,’ originated in the Netherlands.

They got their common name from the Turkish word for gauze (with which turbans were wrapped) – reflecting the turban-like appearance of a tulip in full bloom.

Yellow tulips symbolise cheerful thoughts.

The brightly colored, upright flowers may be single or double, and vary in shape from simple cups, bowls, and goblets to more complex forms.

Tulips typically bear cup-shaped flowers in almost every shade but true blue. They can be double or single, fringed or twisted, perfumed or non-scented.

Purple symbolises royalty.

Orange is a color that’s symbolic of friendship and appreciation.

The eleventh wedding anniversary flower is also tulip. It conveys forgiveness.

These are different shades of Red Tulips in our garden. Red tulips are most strongly associated with true love.

Red tulips are the hue of choice to express that you are deeply in love. The red colour tulips evoke passion and romance.

There are no Black Tulips.   It is very dark Red.  This is the blackest we got.

Pink tulips symbolise congratulations and the wish for good luck.

White tulips are a symbol of saying you’re sorry about something,

Some of the Tulips are still blooming – may be due to the strong variation in temperature this spring.

They are gone in two weeks – and that’s the saddest part.

Mental Health Education

The Ontario government announced that they will introduce a new mandatory education curriculum for elementary and high school students that aims to increase mental health literacy, in the wake of continued challenges that emerged during the COVID-19 pandemic.  It will help students to recognise signs of being overwhelmed or struggling, as well as where to find help. Ontario’s current health and physical education curriculum, updated in 2019, already includes learning on mental-health literacy in every grade.

The program was ushered in due to the advocacy of Progressive Conservative MPP Natalie Pierre, who put forward a motion in December around mental health literacy. She took up the case for mental health education after her 17-year-old son took his life by suicide six years ago.  After her son died, Pierre made it her personal mission to advocate for mental health education in classrooms.

She said that her son was like any other student. The day before he died, he took a university campus tour. The night before, he went to a school dance. He worked a few hours at his part time job, and he got together with friends. Everyone observed him to be a normal, healthy teenager, but that wasn’t the truth.  In the months and years that followed; others contacted her to share their experiences with mental illness.

This propelled her to advocate for mental health education in schools the same way math and science are taught.

The proposed curriculum aims to create a personal toolbox of skills that a student could utilise in their life and their jobs and in the classroom.  It will include learning materials for Grades 7 and 8 in the form of activities, videos, and information to help students learn how to manage stress, determine the relationship between mental health and mental illness, recognise signs, symptoms and how to find support.

A survey released in February 2023 found about 91% of school principals reported needing some or a lot of support for students’ mental health and well-being.  The report also suggested that there is a lack of resources to respond to the mental health crisis in the classroom.

The curriculum is proactive, practical, and evidence based. It reaches students where they are at and at a time in their lives when mental health issues often emerge. It is aimed to prevent tragedies like the one experienced by Pierre.

Education Minister Stephen Lecce said the government will also spend $26 million over the next two years to provide mental-health resources to students over the summer, so their support isn’t interrupted by the school break.

Mental health disorders among teenagers are highly prevalent yet undertreated. Reasons for not seeking help is due to limited awareness about mental health issues, social stigma and embarrassment, teenagers’ perceptions about confidentiality and the ability to trust an unknown person. Lack of professional help, inability of parents to identify mental health issues of their children and accept the same further adds to the problem.

The need for mental health education at high school must be about being honest regarding our mental health, pain, anger.  By pretending that such issues do not exist in the teens and do not have to be taught about it at school is a disservice to the students.  Introduction of mandatory mental health education in grade 10 will go a long way addressing the issues faced by the students.

Mental health…is not a destination, but a process. It’s about how you drive, not where you’re going.” — Noam Shpancer, PhD, Professor of Psychology at Otterbein University in Westerville, Ohio.