Cannabis – Marijuana

The Media Circus

In early October 2021, Indian media exploded with headlines about Aryan Khan—son of Bollywood superstar Shah Rukh Khan—being arrested by the Narcotics Control Bureau (NCB) on a cruise ship. Many media houses celebrated the event with theatrical pomp, throwing in bits of masala and spice. Some even went berserk, particularly those active on social media.

Can such media glare and media trial be justified?

Shashi Tharoor summed it up with characteristic precision in a tweet: “I am no fan of recreational drugs and haven’t ever tried any, but I am repelled by the ghoulish epicaricacy displayed by those now witch-hunting Shah Rukh Khan on his son’s arrest. Have some empathy, folks. The public glare is bad enough; no need to gleefully rub a 23-year-old’s face in it.”

I needed a dictionary to decode that tweet—ghoulish (ugly and unpleasant, or frightening), epicaricacy (deriving pleasure from the misfortunes of others). That is Tharoorian English for you!

A Personal Note

I too am not a fan of recreational drugs and have never tried them. The smell of marijuana smoke puts me off—though I have been a cigarette smoker for over four decades. But the way the NCB, the Indian media, and the judiciary conducted themselves in dealing with this case leaves me equally unimpressed. It seems absurd—perhaps because I have lived in Canada for eighteen years, where a similar case would have been handled very differently.

Canada’s Approach to Cannabis

This prompted me to delve into Canadian cannabis laws. In our province of Ontario, one must be nineteen or older to buy, use, possess, or grow recreational cannabis—the same minimum age as for tobacco and alcohol. The law permits smoking and vaping cannabis in private residences, many outdoor public places (including sidewalks and parks), and designated smoking guest rooms in hotels, motels, and inns. However, it is prohibited in publicly owned sports fields, spectator areas, and public areas within twenty metres of such spaces.

One may grow up to four cannabis plants per residence—not per person—if aged nineteen or older, for personal use only. Seeds must be purchased from the Ontario Cannabis Store or an authorised retail store, and the activity must not be forbidden by one’s lease or condo rules.

After the law was implemented in October 2019, I noticed a drastic decrease in the odour of marijuana smoke during my walks, especially at park corners. It appeared it was no longer “cool” to flaunt it.

The law also permits possession of a maximum of thirty grams of dried cannabis in public at any time. I also realised I could grow four cannabis plants at home for recreational purposes—if I ever chose to.

A Memory from Kerala

My mind raced back to the 1980s—to a television interview with a tribal chieftain from Kerala, India. In the early 1970s, when Indira Gandhi was Prime Minister, she visited the tribal area accompanied by K. Karunakaran, then Home Minister of Kerala. The chieftain was fortunate to have an audience with Mrs. Gandhi. She asked what she could do for the welfare of his people. He did not ask for a school, a hospital, a proper road, drinking water, or electricity. Instead, he promptly said: “Our people should be allowed to grow two cannabis plants per household.”

Mrs. Gandhi smiled. Mr. Karunakaran nodded. The chieftain later claimed that thereafter, the police and the State Excise Department accepted it as an unwritten law and never bothered them again.

A Reflection

The contrast is striking. In one country, a young man’s arrest becomes a national spectacle, his family’s name dragged through the mud. In another, cannabis is regulated, normalised, and largely stripped of stigma. In yet another, a tribal community quietly secures permission to grow what they have always grown, through a simple request to a visiting Prime Minister.

What is the difference? Not the plant. Not the person. But the culture of law enforcement, the role of media, and the appetite for public humiliation.

Perhaps the question is not whether cannabis should be legal or illegal. Perhaps it is: why do we treat some users as criminals, others as patients, and still others as mere inconveniences? And why, when a celebrity’s child is involved, do we turn a legal matter into a morality play?

The tribal chieftain may have asked for less than he deserved. But he understood something that the media and the NCB seem to have forgotten: that justice and dignity are not always found in the law. Sometimes, they are found in a smile, a nod, and a little bit of grace.

A Father’s Guide to Navigating Teenage Drinking

The Discovery

Bar at our Home

Our friend Joseph Kurian – Joe to those who know him – was cleaning up his daughter Meera’s room when he made a discovery: a bottle of cognac. His immediate concern was how to handle the situation. His fear was the usual one shared by most North American parents of teenagers: Going against an eighteen-year-old in America is like threading a minefield with no metal detectors.

It is very common for high school kids to consume alcohol. I found my scotch bottles near empty on several occasions and knew our son was responsible. Recently, Nikhil asked me why I never confronted him about it. My reply was straightforward: “Had it been your father, he would have poured water to maintain the level, ending up ruining the scotch. Thank God you didn’t do that.”

Nikhil’s explanation was equally candid: “Where else can high school kids get alcohol? Obviously, we take it from our dad’s bar. Otherwise, we need an adult to buy it from a store – and that costs money. So the easiest route is always the one teens resort to. Our parties cannot happen without alcohol.

The Party Education

After his high school graduation party – complete with an after-party and an after-after-party at various friends’ homes – we picked him up the following morning at eleven. Marina asked how the party went.

Most kids didn’t know how to drink,” he said. “They threw up everywhere, and many girls ended up crying. By the end, I realised every girl was out to stab every other girl in the back. These girls are really complicated. We boys are much simpler. My group didn’t have any problems because I taught them how to drink.”

What have you learned?” Marina asked.

Nikhil explained: “Take a glass of water. Take a bite before drinking. Take your time with the first drink—don’t gulp it down. Take a bite, drink a glass of water, take a stroll through the party hall, dance to a song, release the pressure in the washroom if needed. The ritual continues throughout the night.”

Marina then asked, “Who taught you this?”

Dad!” came the instant answer.

Marina vented her frustration at me. Nikhil’s response was a lesson in itself: “You don’t teach swimming to a kid by standing on the ground. You have to put them in the water.”

Now Joe must put Meera in the water and help her navigate it. She needs an instructor, a coach to guide her through these waters—and a lifeguard. Who better than a father, all rolled into one?

The Science of Teenage Drinking

Teens have been experimenting with alcohol for generations. During adolescence, children are more vulnerable to addiction because the pleasure centre of the brain matures long before the decision-making part. Most teens, however, give up alcohol as they grow up—the thrill diminishes with age.

Statistically, children who have their first drink at age fourteen or younger are six times more likely to develop alcohol problems than those who wait until the Minimum Legal Drinking Age (MLDA).

A Global Perspective

It is interesting to note the wide variation in MLDA across countries:

  • No MLDA (19 countries): Bolivia, Cambodia, Cameroon, China, Indonesia, and others.
  • MLDA 16-17: Austria, Belgium, Cyprus, Denmark, Germany, Luxembourg, Netherlands, Portugal, Spain, Switzerland.
  • MLDA 18-19: Australia, Canada, Cuba, Czech Republic, Finland, France, Ireland, Israel, Italy, New Zealand, Philippines, Poland, Romania, Russia, South Africa, South Korea, Sweden, Ukraine, United Kingdom, Vatican City.
  • MLDA 20: Iceland, Japan, Paraguay, Thailand, Uzbekistan.
  • MLDA 21: United States, Sri Lanka.

In sixteen countries, alcohol consumption is illegal at any age: Afghanistan, Bahrain, Bangladesh, Brunei, Iran, Kuwait, Libya, Maldives, Mauritania, Pakistan, Qatar, Saudi Arabia, Somalia, Sudan, United Arab Emirates, Yemen.

In India, MLDA varies by state – from 18 in Goa to 25 in New Delhi. Realistically, enforcement is minimal, and monitoring is nearly non-existent. Most of our nephews and nieces in India, Canada, and the United States admitted to having consumed alcohol during their high school years.

Understanding Binge Drinking

Binge drinking – consuming five or more drinks at one sitting – can cause teens to pass out, feel sick, or behave abnormally. As a central nervous system depressant, alcohol consumed too quickly slows bodily functions, potentially resulting in loss of consciousness.

The Parental Role

As parents, grandparents, teachers, relatives, or friends, we have an important role to play. Interestingly, children from families where alcohol dependency or abuse is prevalent often appear to keep away from it. Preserving family rituals – established daily routines, family dinners, holiday celebrations – can make a significant difference in steering children away from alcohol abuse.

The need of the hour is open communication with teens about alcohol. Many parents are uncertain when to begin the conversation. Teens themselves are often confused about what to drink and when to start. Mostly, it becomes a group activity that devolves into a show-off scenario.

Parents must set the stage early, letting teens know they can talk about anything without the heavens coming down.

A Family’s Approach

Our nephew Joji, an engineering graduate, commented that if a situation like Meera’s had occurred in his home, he could not imagine the consequences. Marina often speaks openly with our children about her father and my younger brother – both of whom underwent alcohol de-addiction programmes. She also shares her own experiences with drinking and mine.

Practical Advice for Parents

It is crucial for parents to set a practical MLDA at home. The ultimate tool is communication with children. In awkward situations, take a deep breath, remember your own teenage years, and express your feelings positively – without finger-pointing or pontificating.

Please read my earlier Blog Post ‘Importance of Parent-Child Communication’ by clicking here.

Teenage binge drinking is a reality many families face, but it should never be dealt with lightly. Open communication and truly knowing your child will pay rich dividends in navigating these matters.

The Final Word

My conversation with Joe concluded on a lighter note: “Meera seems very classy—she chose a costly cognac bottle. Next might be a condom! So, start preparing for that. We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it. I don’t want to pre-empt you with my dose of advice.

The unspoken message was clear: parenting teenagers is a continuous journey, best navigated with honesty, humour, and unwavering support.